/ˈnɛgətɪv/ Show Spelled [neg-uh-tiv] adjective, noun, adverb, verb, neg·a·tived, neg·a·tiv·ing, interjection
1.expressing or containing negation or denial: a negative response to the question.
2.refusing consent, as to a proposal: a negative reply to my request.
3.expressing refusal to do something: He maintained a negative attitude about cooperating.
4.prohibitory, as a command or order.
5.characterized by the absence of distinguishing or marked qualities or features; lacking positive attributes ( opposed to positive): a dull, lifeless, negative character
I am not a naturally laid-back person... I have to work at it. I know this seems like a paradox, but I tend to care about things a tad too much. What can I say, I'm a very passionate person. :)
I truly believe that negativity and complaining (constantly) are toxic to the body and mind, as well as addictive.
I strive for positive thoughts. After all...it could always be worse, and you should count your blessings and be grateful. I try to keep my complaining to a minimum.
Don't get me wrong... I believe a good vent every now and then is very healthy... but I try to vent responsibly. No one likes that friend who still "vents" about the wrong that was suffered upon them last year.
I know this doesn't seem like a post about writing, but I truly believe that you need to have a positive outlook to be able to think creatively. Negative thought is very habit forming (not to mention, contagious), and if you are exposed to it on a regular basis, even if you try to stay positive, that negativity will seep in.
Once that negativity is in there... your confidence, energy, and even your characters suffer!
I never realized how common place it is, (at least in my neck of the woods), for these seemingly innocent little complaints, or negative thoughts to be used as the main structure of "small talk" until recently. It is simply terrible how many times I find myself in one of these conversations!
This is the stuff that blocks creativity, and I am actively trying to break this "Negativity Habit".
So the question is this: how do you block negativity from your day to day life when it is the socially accepted form of communication? How do you keep a positive friendship with a negative friend?
Is this why writers tend to be hermit-ish? LOL!